Dating Tips for Men
This may sound cheeky but the worst thing you could do when going out on a date
(specially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking
dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will judge you on
how hygienic you are. Wouldn't you be appalled if she turned up for the date
looking like a hippy who hadn't bathed for a while? (no offence to hippies!)
It doesn't cost to take a bath and make an effort. Remember bad breath and body
odour are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all
the time even if you are just having a bad day (girls have bad hair days all
the time). If you're not careful she won't even see beyond your appearance.
The worst thing you can do is turn up late. Turning up late will send out all
the wrong signals. Women always assume the worse and one of the worst is
up late. Not only will she think that she has been stood up but also that you
are unreliable. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable
to turn up 5 minutes before you are due. Any earlier and she may still be
her make up or getting ready and won't want you to see her yet. Turning up
late... well just don't.
Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her
chair, be polite to her and people around you. Women like to feel special and
by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
The first thing to say to her is "you look beautiful" before you
even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date such as:
hair looks nice", I like the colour of it", "your eyes are very
sparkly" etc. But do not go overboard. A woman loves to be complimented,
feel sexy/gorgeous/beautiful and to feel that you are attracted to her.
Listen to her and ask questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about
or not listening to what the other person is saying. But you do have to get
to know each other. Ask her questions but, more importantly, listen to what
she has to say. There is nothing that a woman likes more than when someone
is interested in what she has to say. I remember once I was sitting in a
waiting for some friends. There was a man and women sitting at the table next
to mine and I couldn't help over hearing their conversation (rather him talking
about himself). I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling
her about himself. "I play Saturday league football, I like boxing".
He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping or asking her
She was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often and looking bored.
That day left an impact on me and every time I have been on a date since I
have been conscious of the woman and have taken an interest in what she had
to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.
The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation
dries up and you are left for the rest of the night bored with each other.
Think about your date and what you would like to know about her and in return
what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions
that she might ask you so that you can prepare the answer. It's easy to think
that talking is a simple job, you will not run out of questions to ask or
that you will automatically have the answers but until you're there and in
the situation you can't predict what will happen. You can avoid all of this
by meeting for a quick drink then going on to see a film so at least you
will have something to talk about.
Who will pay?
This is a really tough question as now women are more independent and like
to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and if she lets you then
pay. If she wants to pay you can argue that you want to or at least pay for
half the bill. If she offers to split, again you can argue (that is if you
want to) but if she insists on splitting then let her pay half.
The goodnight kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are disappointed if their
guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this.
The only answer I can come up with is to wait until either she makes the first
move or that you both know when you are ready. Watch for body language and
little touches but I would not advise sex on the first date unless she wants
I'll call you
Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her
again. This is an awkward situation and most of the time the easiest way
out is to take her number and tell her you will call her but don't if you
are not interested. When saying goodbye just say "It was nice meeting
you" and wish her luck or you could just say goodnight, smile and walk
away. But if you do like her and are interested then you have to let her